Whether you are the ultimate planner and organizer, or the girl that seems to always finish everything on a whim, almost every bride is still left with quite a “To-Do” list the weeks prior to her wedding because of the immense amount of details that go into this one very special day. While there are some elements that must be taken care of last minute like your final dress fitting (about a week to two weeks before the wedding) or your manicure/pedicure, here are a list of 10 Do’s and Don’ts for the week of your wedding in order to keep your sanity and have a little bit of pre-wedding bliss!
1. DON’T Cram in a Tan- While we DO recommend a relaxing day at the beach, please don’t skip the sunscreen in an attempt to cram in a wedding day tan! Golden skin is always beautiful with a white dress, but looking like a red lobster or peeling in your wedding photos is just not worth the risk. To work around this, it is best to gradually work in your tan so that you are just the right color on your wedding day, and always remember to where SPF 30+ so that your skin doesn’t suffer in the meantime.
Don’t forget the sunscreen!!
2. DON’T Start Bridal Gown Shopping- While its reasonable and easy to buy your party/dancing dress the week of the wedding, this commandment is specific to the “main” dress of your wedding, the gown you wear in the chuppah and for the majority of the event. A wedding gown is typically not an impulse buy and requires several fittings and alterations in order to fit perfectly and be ready for your wedding day. To go into a shop and buy a wedding dress only days before the wedding you are risking settling for a dress that you don’t love and one that doesn’t fit.
Fittings only please!
3. DON’T Go on a Crash Diet– Crash diets are typically synonymous with cranky, fatigued, and HUNGRY women and being any of these things the week of your wedding is not great for your overall morale. Cutting back on junk or snacks and eating extra healthy is definitely recommended, but any celebrity crash diets you read about online aren’t worth the downsides that come with the slight weight loss. Weight-loss, healthy eating and fitness should be a gradual process you fit into your daily life months before the wedding to get the ultimate results.
Do yourself a favor, eat something!
4. DON’T Take on any DIY Projects– Unless you have a small guest list of 50 or less people, it’s likely any DIY project like party favors or wedding decor is going to be a timely process that will have you pulling your hair out if you decide to just start them the week of the wedding. Writing names of guests on table cards or party favor bags: totally reasonable… actually MAKING these gifts from scratch or building your chuppah 5 days before the wedding… stay away!!! If you must complete a ton of DIY projects last minute make sure to recruit some help from family and friends to speed along the process. Brides with more time should try to start these projects about a month before the wedding so everything is ready and prepared without the rush.
Drills are not a great wedding day accessory – Plan your DIY’s ahead of time.
5. DON’T Get a New Hairdo- Root touch ups or slight trims are OK about 2 weeks to a week before, but any major hair transformation (color or cut) should NOT be left to the week of your wedding. Regardless of how amazing your hair stylist is, there is a chance you will not love the final result and being stuck with bad hair will have you in a complete fury on your wedding day. Give yourself at least a month before the wedding for any significant cuts or color changes in order to get used to the change and make any necessary fixes.
6. DO Check-In with All Your Vendors & Reservations- A quick phone call or email to each and every wedding vendor to confirm timing, meeting places, and other vendor related details is important to make sure everyone is on the same page and ready for the big day. Vendors will appreciate that you’re “on the ball” and you will be able to show up on your wedding day with some peace of mind. Make sure to also confirm the lighting at the venue as well as your honeymoon flight and hotel arrangements so all travel arrangements are confirmed and you and your new partner can fly off into the sunset worry-free.
7. DO Schedule in Some “Us” Time- With all the rush and tasks of planning a wedding, many engaged couples often find themselves with barely any private time together. No matter how many things you have to do, make sure to schedule in some time with your partner for non-wedding matters so you can enjoy each other’s company the way you did pre-wedding days. Whether it’s dinner at your favorite restaurant or just a walk on the beach you will both truly benefit from a break from all the stress and the comfort of each other’s company.
DO find non-wedding planning time with your partner!
8. DO Get Help from Family & Friends- There are so many small tasks right before a wedding that just having a few family and friends help pick up an item or make a phone call for you can make all the difference. It’s totally reasonable to ask your closest and trustworthy friends for a little wedding week assistance like making an appointment or checking in with a vendor or two, just remember to always be polite and thankful for their extra help!
Ask a friend for some help, they might enjoy it!
9. DON’T Sweat the Small Stuff- Let’s face it, no matter how much planning you do, there will be some elements of your wedding that won’t go exactly the way you envisioned them to be. Rather than make yourself a nervous wreck trying to make everything perfect, go into your wedding week with the mindset that these are the final days before the wedding and that there is some level of acceptance you must have with the activities of the coming days. If your table cards show up in beige instead of white and there is not enough time to switch them, so be it. If your friend from abroad has to cancel her flight last minute, accept the situation and keep your eye on the prize- you’re getting married!!!
Yes, you too can relax!!
10. DO Remember to Breathe- The most important commandment of all is that you remember to enjoy your wedding week, take it slow, and find time to relax in the process. There are always last minute details that will need to be taken care of, but there should still be “Me” time (massage, mani/pedi/yoga -whatever works for you) factored into each day so that you show up to your wedding a happy and refreshed bride.